Couples and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

  • Are you & your partner having the same arguments over and over with the same outcome creating more frustration & disconnection? 
  • Do you miss the loving connection you used to share?
  • Are you losing hope for your relationship & feeling alone in it?     
  • Does it seem your partner doesn't listen to, or understand how you feel? 

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps address the core questions we often ask ourselves about our most important relationship: "Do I matter deeply to my partner? Will he/she be there for me when I need them most? Do I feel safe and secure enough in this relationship to be my full and authentic self?"

These questions are typically at the root of what couples fight about: the emotional bond and security in their relationship. When we fear that the answer to one of the above questions may be "no," it can cause us to feel isolated and alone, and sometimes as though we are fighting for survival itself. 


EFT – a highly researched, effective, and evidence-based treatment focuses on the emotional bond between partners, presuming that most relational problems arise from a disruption in this bond. It helps partners learn not only to be more open and trusting with each other, but also to reach out for one another more effectively.

As we work together, you will learn to understand the negative cylce you and your partner get caught up in that hasn't been working and leaves you feeling stuck. We will work to create a relationship that does work - where each of you feel heard and understood.  You will also learn how to reduce reactivity, avoid pushing hot buttons and instead, be able to respond (and be responded to) in a way that turns every opportunity for fighting into an opportunity for a deeper connection. Instead of turning away from each other, you'll be turning toward one another.  

EFT has been shown to be very effective in all kinds of relationships including family relationships & same-sex relationships.

I have extensive training and consultation in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as I continue my journey toward certification as an EFT therapist.

Call today to schedule your couples counseling session in Simi Valley (805) 428-6655